At Par
Today I gave an interview to Betsy Prioleau. Betsy wrote a book called “Seductress” a couple of years ago about women who ravished the world and their lost art of love. It is about sexually powerful women who were able seduce any man.
She is working on a new project, the ladies man. One of my roommates Lester met Betsy, she told him about the project and Lester said that I am the perfect candidate for an interview. She called me a couple of days ago and I had the pleasure to meet her today.
The book is not about heart breakers or men who manipulate women until they wake up and see the truth. It is about men who have an impact on the women they are with that will never go away, men women fall in love with and stay in love with even after they are not together any more.
What Betsy tries to find out is what makes a man be a ladies man? Based on looking at the past we know already that it is not looks, money, or fame. But what is it? And why do most women in this country believe that this breed of men does not exist any more?
I had a lot to say about all of that. We talked for about 90 minuets. What makes a man irresistible and keeps him that way?
I told her about myself, things I wrote in earlier blog posts. I talked about my upbringing, not feeling loved by my mother and me projecting that onto the rest of the female population. Because of that I was expecting to be rejected from girls and because of my beliefs that was my experience.
I told her about the therapy sessions, my deep understanding that I was living in an illusion all these years and how this understanding has changed my life.
I think what makes a man irresistible is the same that makes a woman irresistible. It is the same thing I have been writing about over and over again on this blog. It is letting go off of the small limiting ego we imagine ourselves to be and reuniting with the source, with all there is. In that moment every action and every word we utter is backed up by the power of the universe and this is very sexy.
I am not saying that men who have this impact on women know consciously what is going on but somehow they have the ability to plug into the source of all things. The source of all things is also the universal mother that does take care of all we need. How can we connect to the universal mother? By feeling loved and cared for by our physical mother. It is interesting that so far I am the only man Betsy interviewed who has a bad relationship with his mother.
My theory about the ladies men is the following. Every man is a ladies man since we all come from the same source. But through bad experiences growing up we loose our connection to this side in us. We forget that we are James Bond. What seems to be one of the main ingredients for being a ladies man? Having a good relationship with our mothers. There must me much more men with mother issues out there then we want to admit.
I am a living example though that there is a way to turn things around. I had to sit on a couch for seven years and it took a tremendous amount of work and effort but today I gave an interview for a book about men that love women who have a tremendous impact on these women’s lives and told my story.
What can stop a man like that from moving on, what makes him stay? Only a woman that is at par with him, a woman that is as plugged in as he is or who is willing to do the work to get there.
"At Par" Manhattan/New York City/44th Street 06-04-08 at 08:01 PM
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