Loneliness

Why do we feel lonely? What triggers this feeling? Is it really true that we are alone?

Feeling alone is not limited to being excluded from society. Loneliness can be felt anywhere we are. Big cities are a place where many people feel lonely. We can have many friends or not, be in a relationship or not, close to our families or not. The feeling of being utterly alone creeps up once on a while. But why is that? How can somebody who lives in New York and is surrounded by millions of people feel alone?

It goes back to the illusion our mind/ego has created about ourselves. We created an ego a false belief and imagine that to be who we really are. The ego perceives itself to be separated from the rest of the world by a body that we call “I”. This separation makes us feel lonely. An ego cannot help anybody else, it does not even want to. The ego knows about the fragility of the body and is convinced that it has to fight against the other egos to survive. All it is focused on is its own agenda and survival. It might pretend that it wants to help others or pretends to love them. But in reality it is all about what it gets out of the situation for itself.

When we are with family, with friends or in a relationship we subconsciously feel that. All the ego thinks about is “what is in it for me?” You might be in a relationship and this person tells you he or she loves you. But how can an ego love you?  Egos are all about fear and survival. When there is fear how can there be love? They cannot coexist. What is this person getting out of the relationship with you? What do you family members and your friends get out of a relationship with you?

This is why we feel sometimes so alone because we are alone.

But loneliness does only exist in the illusionary self. The more we are able to let go of our minds/egos the more we understand that we are not alone but all one. We understand the interconnectedness of all things. The fear of survival ceases since we understand that the universe always supports us. Where there is no fear there can be love. When there is love we can help others without our agenda being the motivation.

"Alone". On the Q train/ Somewhere in Brooklyn 02-11-08 at 08:09 PM.

 

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