My Love

A few days ago I received an e-mail from somebody I have not been talking to for many years. In her mail she mentioned that even though I don’t believe it she loves me very much just in her way as we all have our different ways to love. That is very interesting. What does “My way of love” mean? I ran it by a couple of my friends and to my astonishment most of them said that this is understandable, that we are all different and that there are different ways of love. Is there such a thing, are there different forms of love or is there only one love?

Obviously there are many different kinds of love. We love our partners romantically because we are attracted to them. We love family members because they are related to us. We love people around us because they are nice to us. We love friends because they are close to us.

But is this love?

Every single example has a condition attached to it. Isn’t love supposed to be unconditional? If it is conditional it is nothing else then a control tool. You do what I want or I don’t love you any more.

What if the good looks are gone, what if somebody in our family does not talk to us any more, what if somebody stops being nice and what if somebody does not want to be our friend any more?

What is wrong with, “I love you my way”? Is “my way” unconditional? Absolutely not! It means nothing else then “under my conditions”.

Love is the energy that runs through everything. It is part of everything, it has no beginning and no end, it is the force and the Tao. We can tap into it, we can feel it but by no means can we control it, make it our own or willingly direct it into any direction.

To say, “I love you my way” is like blowing air bubbles. The “my way” renders “I love you” meaningless.

"My Love" Williamsburg/Brooklyn 12-30-08 at 12:24 PM

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